I had a real “punch in the gut” moment last night. A really good friend and I are working on an amazing group coaching option to launch in January, so last night we had a zoom to brainstorm and go over webinar topics. As the second glass of wine was poured and we just started talking about life and everything that has been happening in life recently, it hit me…holy shit. Everything that has been happening is preparing me for what I’ve been ASKING for.

Last year, I had the desire in my heart to write a book. I know I have so many stories inside that need to be shared with others, but as far as an actual topic for the book? I had no clue. All it felt like were just bits and pieces. That’s when I decided I should get into journaling, which led into blogging. Over the summer, I dove into a life coaching course because I felt I needed to offer more to others than just health and fitness coaching.

In the last month, I have been reaching out to my friend consistently when it comes to my spiritual journey and my current relationship. She made the comment, “Everyone always comes to me for spirituality and relationships. That’s like…my thing. But it’s because I had extreme pain I had to work through in both areas.” So as we were chatting last night, it all became very clear: I can’t teach what I don’t know. I can’t coach others through what I haven’t worked through.

Take Gabby Bernstein for instance…she has written many books on her own spiritual journey and how she was struggling with her own codependence while coaching a client through theirs. What did she do? She left her relationship. She left her relationship to force herself to heal. Interestingly enough, he’s now her husband.

As I started to work through my codependence issues, I started to see a very clear vision for what direction my book needs to go. My current relationship journey is still unfolding, but I have a feeling it will become very clear very fast what lesson needs to be learned and shared.

As I continued to chat with Shakti I told her, “So…I’ve been talking to God. I’ve been asking if I can keep what I have if I promise to learn the lesson and teach it to others. Like…for real.”

*Shakti laughing* “Bargaining with God? Yeah, we’ve all been there.”

My emotions currently range from sadness that I had to get punched in the face this way to learn what I needed to learn, and yet also extremely thankful that I have a very clear vision for where I’m headed and what lessons I needed in order to help others.

Far too often, it’s easy to slip right into victim mentality wondering why this is happening TO us. Reframe that question. Why is this happening FOR me? What is the lesson here? What am I supposed to be learning through all of this? What have I REALLY been asking for and how does this actually line up with what I’ve been asking for all along?

The Universe always delivers. You are ALWAYS manifesting, so what are your thoughts manifesting for you? It may not always look like what you pictured, but you are preparing for exactly what you asked for. Learn the lesson and say, “thank you.”