I’ve been doubling up on Gabrielle Bernstein lately. Her daily assignments are so short, I’ve been craving more. Today I listened to another talk she has available on Apple Music called Love Wins. When I listen to what she has to say, it’s not new. It’s very similar to the work I’ve done through Byron Katie and Brene Brown. It’s one thing, though, to understand the concept and very different to apply it to your life…especially when you’re in fear.

The big quote that hit home this morning was: “Attack thoughts are a call for love.”

Think about how often we “attack” someone. It could be physically or verbally, but more often than not it’s mentally. The most common person we attack though? Ourselves. How often do you have negative thoughts running through your head? If I had to guess, it’s probably more often than you even think. So the next time you want to attack someone else or yourself, pause and send love instead.

The other big takeaway from today was: “Treat your lover like you treat your friends. Ask yourself, ‘Would I treat my friends that way?'”

I thought about my behavior the last couple days when I found out Kenya was reality. I would NEVER treat my friends that way. I would love and support them, tell them I would miss them and be excited to hear about the journey. So why is it so much harder to do that for our significant other? We tend to rely on our significant others to bring us happiness. Think about that, though. If they are the only ones who can make you happy, then when you’re unhappy who has that control? Them. We so often give our power away to others. Take that shit back!

This morning’s reflection:

“There’s always a loving perspective. Today I welcome new perceptions. I am willing to let go of my old limiting beliefs and let love enter in. I choose to believe that there is always a loving perspective. I choose to see love.

Today’s affirmation: Love did not create this.

1. What was my fear?
*I will be cheated on while he’s away for 8 weeks, there’s no way it WON’T happen.
(Love did not create this)

2. How did it feel to use my affirmation?
*Forced, but calming to feel I had an alternate thought to go to.

3. How did my energy shift (if only for a moment)?
*For a moment, I was calm instead of fearful

Tonight’s evening reflection is a letter to my inner guide. Gabby recommends to write it out and put it where you can see it often, in a sacred space that is just for you.

Dear Inner Guide,

I am committed to transforming my fears to love. I will open my heart and mind to love and I will let my intuition guide me. I welcome all the spiritual assignments that may come and I am ready, willing, and able to smother my fears with the light of love. I choose to see love instead of fear.

Love,
Anne

Sometimes we feel fear and can’t even fully pinpoint it. I just know sometimes I feel that panic and tightness in my chest. I remind myself to take deep breaths and continue to tell myself, “Choose love. See love. Love did not create this.” Love…love…love. Always choose love.